By: Michaela Zackett
It’s no secret that men and women are different. It is no news that they look for different things in a relationship. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. What do women want from men? There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old, fat, skinny, talkative, quiet, beautiful, not so beautiful.
One thing that is clear is that everyone looks for a perfect relationship. Men are remarkable by their caution and carefulness. Women though are much more fussy. When it comes to choosing men, they not only have a greater list of requirements, they’re also keen to make the effort to help the guy change. But despite their striving for talking things through, most men still struggle to understand exactly what women need to be happy with them.
What do women want? They just want to be happy like us. They just have a different way to show it. If you learn their language, listen when you’ d rather speak, hug instead of just walking away, tell the truth till it hurts, be a man she can depend on and love her like you love yourself. You’ll no longer ask what women want, they’ll be asking you what you want and give it to you.
Here are some true things that we can say safely women want from men.
Value. Women want to know that their man is someone other women would want. They want a certain “gotta have” quality about their man. This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested. It’s annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!
Structure. A woman wants stability, balance, a sense of order. She wants someone she can rely on. You say you’re going to be home at 9:00, you be home at 9:00. You are late? Call. The hardest thing for us guys is to differentiate between support and total control. Creating a foundation and stability doesn’t mean trying to solve all the problems to the point you disempower the one you love. Your love is not a crutch but a bond. A bond where dependability is synonymous with trust.
Security. Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everything’s gonna be all right. This doesn’t mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.
Love . Love them most of all. Let it all out. Let it all out every day, every minute of every second of every day. Be love, crawl up inside of it and approach every problem with the question what would love do now? If you do this, fear will never enter your life.
Appreciation. Women DO want to feel appreciated. They just don’t want to be obsessed over. Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted – but don’t slave over her and make her feel like you can’t live without her. That’s just pathetic, and drives women away.
Don’t lie. A woman can forgive a lot of things but she won’t put up with a snake in the grass liar. If once she caught you that you lied her she would never have more trust in you. Lie to a woman you are dissing her. Tell the truth, you live to play another day.
Hug her. Hug her in the morning, hug her before you leave to work, e-mail her a hug and hug her ten times when you get home. You must make her feel loved and protected.
Smile. Women don’t like boring men .Be someone who smiles, who doesn’t take life too seriously, who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than a guy who’s stiff and serious – even if he is good looking or wealthy.
A woman want a man with a purpose. It’s not necessary to have a lot of money and a great car but they do want to be headed towards success. They do want to living up to your potential.
So, as a summary women like to be understood, happiness, respect and they also want honesty. But, as the time goes by, the woman wishes change because she is setting new goals. Why men can’t figure women out is because they are a masterpiece in progress.